Journaling – Mental Health Awareness

I have written before about my own inability to journal, until I started blogging. Once I started, I found that it was extremely helpful in my depression recovery. I have been able to work through many things right here in front of all the world.

My journal/blog has become my best friend.  I can be completely honest with it and it will not judge me.  While I am not suggesting that using a blog as a journal is a good idea for everyone, it has been in my case.  I have some accountability from my regular readers and they also have been a terrific support system.

Even though I did not see the value in journaling when I was younger, I do now. In my opinion, it is not just good for people who have a mental illness, it would also benefit the mentally healthy.

Journaling Can Help Your Mind and Body


Journaling is different than keeping a traditional diary.  Most people use diaries to record daily events and happenings.  Journals are used to record our emotions, reactions, and perceptions of those events.

Keeping a journal is good way to start coping with mental health issues.  It is something you can do by yourself, and it allows you to see your emotions in black and white.  Once your thoughts and feelings are out of your brain and on paper, there is no longer any mystery attached to them.   This allows you to gain some insight about them. Journaling removes mental blocks and lets you use your brain power to better understand yourself, others and the world around you.

Some studies have shown that writing about upsetting personal experiences, for only about twenty minutes, three or four times a week can drastically reduce a person’s blood pressure.  Other studies suggest that journaling can reduce the symptoms of asthma and rheumatoid arthritis.  It is thought that writing about stressful events helps a person come to terms with them, thereby reducing the impact they have on a person’s physical health.

Some benefits of journaling:

Clarifying your thoughts and feelings. When your thoughts and feelings are all jumbled up in your head, take a few minutes to write them down, without any editing. This will help you to quickly get in touch with your internal world.

Getting to know yourself better. By journaling on a routine basis, you will get to know what makes you happy and confident.  It also makes clear which situations and people are toxic for you, important information for your emotional well being.

Reducing stress. Writing about anger, stress, sadness and other painful emotions allows you to release them.  Doing that will help you feel calmer and help you manage your emotions.

Effective problem solving. Writing helps us come up with creative  and unexpected solutions to problems, that on the surface, seem unsolvable.

Finding resolutions to disagreements. Writing about misunderstandings with other people rather than sitting and stewing about them, allows you to see things from their perspective.   This very often leads to a solution that both parties can agree on.

If you are resistant to the idea of keeping a journal, get creative.  Try using a recording device for your journaling, this can include using a web cam.  Blogging is also an effective but fun way to keep a journal.



The Quote Of The Day Meme

“During depression the world disappears. Language itself. One has nothing to say. Nothing. No small talk, no anecdotes. Nothing can be risked on the board of talk. Because the inner voice is so urgent in its own discourse: How shall I live? How shall I manage the future? Why should I go on?”

Kate Millett

Reminder – The Quote Of The Day Meme

I love quotes. Quotes of any kind, I just love ’em. I love to see what quotes inspire people on any given day. So I decided to start a meme that was all about quotes.

It is a very simple meme. Every Tuesday, all you have to do is to make a post with the quote you have picked for that day. If you want, you could even say why you picked that quote. After you create your post with the quote you have chosen, come back here and add your link.

The quotes can come from the internet, books, poems, magazines, your own brain, your grandma, it does not matter.

There is a button for you to grab in my side bar. You can grab the code and use it to link back to my site.

I hope you all participate!

They Were Thirsty…

My darling daughter has always been one of those kids who could be funny without even trying. Even as a toddler she could reduce me to laughter when I probably should have been disciplining her. The logic she exhibited as a toddler was as amazing as it was funny.

When my daughter was very young, my family used to foster dogs for an animal rescue group in our county. Along with our dogs, we usually had one or two others we were trying to get ready for new families. The kids were great at helping take care of the dogs we were fostering, each doing what they could based on their ages.

One Spring, I got a phone call from an older woman who said that she believed three puppies had been dumped at a house right across the road from her. No one was living in the house, so she was very concerned about the well being of these puppies. She figured that they were about eight weeks old. The kids and I made plans to drive over there and pick them up.

Of course, the kids were excited about the prospect of having puppies in the house. I was too. We located the puppies and brought them home. After we got the home, we figured that they were not eight weeks old, but closer to five or six weeks old. Too young to be put outside with the other foster dogs. We made a little bed in the corner of the kitchen and kept a careful eye on them.

One afternoon, my daughter was playing with the puppies. I walked out of the room for a few minutes, not very long at all. When I re-entered the kitchen a surprise was waiting for me. All three puppies were on the kitchen table and a very large glass of water was tipped over.

As much as I love dogs, I really do not think they belong on tables. I was a little irritated that my daughter had put them up there and now I was going to have to clean up the mess they made. I asked her what she had been thinking when she had done it.

Without hesitation she gave me her answer, “They were thirsty and there was a glass of water on the table”

Any irritation I had instantly flew out the window. How could I argue with that logic? Of course, the fact that I was holding back laughter at her answer also made it difficult for me to continue to be irritated with her.

Even now as a thirteen year old, my daughter is just as quick witted as she had been when she was a toddler. I still find myself holding back laughter. I am proud of her quick wit and ability to be funny at the most serious of times. I believe that both of those qualities will benefit her as she grows older.

Anxiety Disorders – Mental Health Awareness

Anxiety is a normal emotion that everyone experiences at times. Many people feel anxious or nervous when there is a problem at work, before taking a test, or making an important decision. Anxiety disorders are different, they are a serious mental illness. People who have an anxiety disorder are often so filled with worry and fear that it has the potential to become crippling.

The causes of anxiety disorders are not fully known. Most experts do agree that it is probably a combination of brain chemistry, environment, life experiences, and hereditary. There are a few risk factors that increase the chance of a person developing an anxiety disorder. Anxiety is more likely to occur if you do not have an outlet for your feelings, especially feelings of anger and frustration. People with low self esteem are at a higher risk. Trauma of some type is a common risk factor. Even a lack of finances can increase a person’s risk of developing an anxiety disorder. A more complete list of risk factors can be found at Panic Survivor

There are five major types of anxiety disorders. It is common for a person to have more than one type of an anxiety disorder. Panic Disorder causes an intense fear that strikes unpredictably, in addition it can also cause heart palpitations, chest pain, and dizziness. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is characterized by recurrent, unwanted thoughts (obsessions) and repetitive behaviors (compulsions). Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can develop after being exposed to a terrifying ordeal, in which serious physical harm occurred or was threatened. Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) is an anxiety disorder that causes a person to have chronic anxiety, and exaggerated worry, even when there is little or nothing to worry about. Social Anxiety Disorder is characterized by an overwhelming anxiety and self consciousness in social situations.

The good news is that all of these anxiety disorders are treatable. There are many different types of treatments available. Each person needs to find what works for them and stick with it. If the appropriate treatment is found and the person follows through with the treatment plan, they can regain some if not all of their ability to function on a day to day basis.

If you believe you or a loved one has an anxiety disorder, please seek help immediately. Family physicians, nurses, religious leaders, mental health specialists, state hospital out patient clinics are some of the places you can go to get help. For a more complete list of places you can get help from go to National Institute of Mental Health

To find a mental health provider in your area you can use the National Mental Health Information Center

Monday Mayhem – Weird, Nerdy, Annoying

It’s all about you…

Welcome to Monday Mayhem. This meme is for people who just wanna have fun on a Monday. Today’s Monday Mayhem is All About You. You can answer the questions any way you want to. Be sure to check out the other participants.

1. What time do you usually wake up in the morning?

Anytime between 3:00 am and 6:00 am


2. What do you do for the first hour of your day?

Drink coffee and catch up on memes

3. Where did or will you have for lunch today?

at home

4. What did you or will you be eating lunch?

an extra crunchy peanut butter and strawberry preserves sandwich


5. What is your best high school memory?

My Senior Prom. It was a wonderful time. A group of us went together and I think that made it more enjoyable.

6. Tell us about your favorite pair of shoes.

They are black, almost a Mary Jane style. They are very comfortable and cute to wear.


7. What does a perfect Sunday afternoon include for you?

My husband being in charge of the cooking and the dishes


8. Was there one book that you read as a child that you still cherish?

A Little Princess by Frances Hodgson Burnett


9. How would the people that know you personally describe you?

weird, nerdy, quiet, smart, annoying

10. How would the people who only know you online describe you?

weird, nerdy, quiet, smart, annoying

11. How will you be treating yourself today?

The same as usual. Working on my writing and doing things around here.


12. What is your definition of being spiritual? Are you spiritual?

Pass

May – Mental Health Awareness Month

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Professionals, schools, communities, hospitals and media outlets will join together to raise awareness about mental health issues and decrease the stigma that often prevents people from seeking the appropriate help.

To do my part in raising awareness, each day in May, I will post information about mental health issues. You can help me by passing the information on to other people. Together we can reach many people, giving them information, hope, and work towards decreasing the stigma that people have about the mentally ill.

All About The Good Stuff

A couple of really cool, good things happened this week. I like it when good things happen. They act as a positive touch stone for me. I can look back at them on the not so good days and boost my mood if I need to.

Last week I entered a writing contest. I posted my entry
One Child’s Inspiration here so ya’ll could have a chance to look over it as well. I received news today, that I came in first for that writing contest. I am pretty excited by that.

You may notice a change here in there with my writing style, I am going to be experimenting with different ways to write so I can be a more well rounded author.

Have you ever gotten a phone call that made your day, week, month or even your year? One of those phone calls where the person on the other end said the exact thing that you needed to hear? Recently, I received one, and it took me by surprise.

My mother called last week. She started off the conversation with something along the lines of “She needed/wanted to talk to me about something”. For the first time in months, my stomach tightened up and I figured she was upset with me about something. I started to try and prepare myself for whatever was going to come next. Imagine my surprise, when instead of her being upset with me about something, she tells me she is calling because she wants to share with me how much she enjoys my company and considers me her friend. Since I had been gearing up for a completely different conversation, I was totally taken off guard by what she said. I was sort of at a loss for words.

It really is a wonderful feeling to know that my mother enjoys hanging out with me. I know I enjoy hanging out with her. We can talk about so many things now, not just the same old stuff we used to.

Sunday Stealing – lettuce

We ripped this meme off a blogger named Haruechan at the blog Haruechan’s Journal. She states that she took it from diek09. But, it was probably stolen there as well. So, of course, that will be as far as we go. Tracing back our theft’s thieves might take some time. Link back to us at Sunday Stealing!

Sunday Stealing: The Question Meme

01) Are you currently in a serious relationship?
yes…I am married

02) What was your dream growing up?
I was going to be an anthropologist and travel the world

03) What talent do you wish you had? I wish I could sing

04) If I bought you a drink what would it be?
A cherry coke zero. I do not drink alcohol and shirley temples have to much sugar

05) Favorite vegetable?
lettuce

06) What was the last book you read?
A book my daughter got at the library. 13 Reasons Why

07) What zodiac sign are you?
Pices

08) Any Tattoos and/or Piercings? Explain where. I only have my ears pierced and I do not have any tatoos.

09) Worst Habit?
Not letting things go

10) If you saw me walking down the street would you offer me a ride?
That would depend on if I knew you are not.

11) What is your favorite sport?
figure skating

12) Do you have a Pessimistic or Optimistic attitude?
I used to have a pessimistic attitude, now I have an optimistic attitude

13) What would you do if you were stuck in an elevator with me?
I would probably talk to you and etc. to pass the time.

14) Worst thing to ever happen to you?
Not saying here

15) Tell me one weird fact about you.
my nose is off center

16) Do you have any pets?
yes a little tiny shitzu mix

17) What if I showed up at your house unexpectedly?
You better hope it is not raining because I am not letting you in.

18) What was your first impression of me?
I am not sure if I could form an opinion about you. I would be too freaked out that you had shown up un-announced

19) Do you think clowns are cute or scary?
cute

20) If you could change one thing about how you look, what would it be?
I would put my nose in the center of my face.

21) Would you be my crime partner or my conscience?
conscience

22) What color eyes do you have?
hazel

23) Ever been arrested?
no

24) Bottle or can soda?
bottle

25) If you won $10,000 today, what would you do with it? pay bills

26) What’s your favorite place to hang out at?
home

27) Do you believe in ghosts? I do not think so

28) Favorite thing to do in your spare time? writing

29) Do you swear a lot? no, in fact I hardly ever swear

30) Biggest pet peeve? people who interrupt me

31) In one word, how would you describe yourself?
smart

32) Do you believe/appreciate romance? I guess, I am not sure

33) Favorite and least favorite food? favorite food: Chicken Least favorite: liver

34) Do you believe in God? yes I do

35) Will you join us this week for Wednesday Wickedness? (Bud has on a mission to make this Wednesday’s most popular meme. Please play this week so I can stop promoting it.) I will try

Silently Screaming

I once knew a young girl who was filled with hurt and anger. Everything she did and said to herself came from that part of her. Her actions were self destructive and also hurt others. She was loved by her family, but her hurt and anger kept that hidden from her. She had no love for herself. She wandered around feeling alone.

Her peers saw that she had no love for herself and treated her accordingly. Whispering things here and there. Hurting her with their words and their glances. Her loneliness grew.

In desperation, she put herself in dangerous situations with dangerous people, hoping to find the love that was missing inside of her. Instead, she found humiliation, rejection and abuse. If by some chance she managed to find someone who truly cared about her, she would not feel worthy of their care and respect. She would destroy things between them. Far better to do that, than for them to figure out just how unworthy she really was.

She carried these feelings with her as she grew older. They clouded her thinking, her actions, and her choices for most of her adult life.

What would have happened if someone had taken the time to show her all the beauty that she possessed? Would her life been filled with more happiness than pain if someone had taken the time to make her feel loved? Or shown her the importance of having her own self worth?

What would I do or say to her if I could?

I would hug her, and hug her and keep hugging her until she felt my love for her. I would tell her that love was not about humiliation, and rejection, it is about respect and acceptance. I would show her how much her family loved and cared for her.

I would go to her family and tell them to look at her, really look at her. Look past her bad behavior, and look past her bad attitude. See that she is hurting. She is silently screaming for help. GET HER HELP!