Power Of Positive Words-W

Before I began depression treatment the words I used out loud in my mind were peppered with negativity. At that time I did not realize the power that words could have on a person’s mood, attitude, and outlook on life. Depression treatment has taught me to be mindful of the words I use. Creating this list of positive words for each letter of the alphabet has been a terrific way for me to build up a positive word bank. My life is very different now. I see a future laid out before me that will be filled with much joy. I know there will be sorrows, however, I think the joy will outweigh those.

 

Feel free to use anything you see on this list on your blog – or even create your own list of positive words.

 

Workable – This word makes me feel positively happy, because I have learned even the most difficult of circumstances are workable. Meaning, if I can remember my tools, and ask for help when I need it, then I can find a way to work through almost everything. In the past, instead of seeing things as workable I would quickly become overwhelmed, full of anxiety, and paralyzed. It is a much better feeling to find my way through a difficult circumstance then to become so overwhelmed that I can’t function.

Resolutions Or Things To Beat Myself Up With

 

To my way of thinking, resolutions are just a fancy way of saying promises. Promises I make myself, that I have a hard time keeping. I used to make New Year’s resolutions every year and every year I would not follow through with them. What I was left with was a really great tool to beat myself up with. My brain would be like, ” Ha ha, I told you so. I knew you couldn’t keep your resolution to (insert any usual New Year’s resolution here).” I did however continue making resolutions during other times of the year. That did not work out so good either.

 

I would resolve -promise myself -to start something, end something, or just do something better, and every single time I would did not follow through. Then the guilt and beating  myself up would start. I still have this habit. I have been promising myself for months that I was going to become active with the Blog Gang again -because it is super fun -and I have yet to do it. I would make sure that I would get the writing prompt from Susie -our fearless leader -over at Mother Hoot, and then still not get around to writing anything for it.

 

So this is it, I am officially giving up resolutions. For now on, I will make attemptolutions. These are kinda sort of like resolutions, but not exactly. I’m not actually making a promise that I will do something. What I am doing is stating I will at least attempt to do something. Attemptolutions are less rigid, and absolute than resolutions, I am thinking this will be a more positive approach to accomplishing goals than resolutions have been for me.

 

Right now, I am making an attemptolution to participate in the next Blog Gang activity.

Power Of Positive Words – V

I am now on my third set of positive words – going in alphabetical order. I get just as much out of them now as I did when I began this series.

 

Before I began depression treatment the words I used out loud, and in my mind were peppered with negativity. At that time, I did not realize the power that words can have on a person’s mood, attitude, and outlook on life. Depression treatment has taught me to be mindful of the words I use. Creating this list of positive words for each letter of the alphabet has been a terrific way for me to build up a positive word bank. My life is very different now. I see a future laid out before me that will be filled with much joy. I know there will be sorrows, however, I think the joy will outweigh those.

 

Feel free to use anything you see on this list on your blog – or even create your own list of positive words.

 

Valid – This word makes me feel positively happy, because I now realize  my emotions are valid – normal you could say. One of the most difficult things for me to learn/figure out in depression treatment has been if my emotional response to something is valid, or if it is skewed to the extreme by depression symptoms. It feels good to be able to identify a particular set of emotions as valid for the circumstance or situation.

Things To Know About Atlanta

A friend of mine sent me an e-mail this morning filled with true, but amusing facts about Atlanta, Georgia. I enjoyed reading it so much that I thought I would share it with y’all. I think those of y’all who live in the Greater Atlanta area will enjoy reading – and probably agree with -these funny facts. The rest of you, should enjoy learning a thing or two about where I live.

 

Atlanta Snow We Gonna Die

 

This is for anyone who lives in Atlanta, Georgia, has ever lived in Atlanta, has ever visited Atlanta, ever plans to visit Atlanta, knows anyone who already lives in Atlanta, or knows anyone who has ever heard of Atlanta.


Atlanta is composed mostly of one-way streets. The only way to get out of downtown Atlanta is to turnaround and start over when you reach Greenville, South Carolina .


All directions start with, “Go down Peachtree” and include the phrase, “When you see the Waffle House.” except that Cobb County, where all directions begin with, “Go to the Big Chicken.”



Peachtree Street has no beginning and no end and is not to be confused with:
Peachtree Circle
Peachtree Place
Peachtree Lane
Peachtree Road
Peachtree Parkway
Peachtree Run
Peachtree Terrace
Peachtree Avenue
Peachtree Commons
Peachtree Battle
Peachtree Corners
New Peachtree
Old Peachtree
West Peachtree
Peachtree-Dunwoody
Peachtree-Chamblee
Peachtree Industrial Boulevard


Atlantans only know their way to work and their way home. If you ask anyone for directions, they will always send you down Peachtree.


Atlanta is the home of Coca-Cola. Coke’s all they drink there so don’t ask for any other soft drink unless it’s made by Coca-Cola. Even if you want something other than a Coca-Cola, it’s still called Coke.


The gates at Atlanta ‘s Hartsfield-Jackson International Airport are about 32 miles away from the Main Concourse, so wear sneakers and pack a lunch.


The 8 a.m. rush hour is from 6:30 a.m. to 10:30 a.m.
The 5 p.m. rush hour is from 3:00 p.m. to 7:30 pm. (Don’t forget the lunch time rush hour!)
Friday’s rush hour starts Thursday afternoon and lasts through 2 a.m. Saturday.


Only a native can pronounce Ponce De Leon Avenue , so do not attempt the Spanish pronunciation. People will simply tilt their heads to the right and stare at you. The Atlanta pronunciation is ” pawntz duh LEE-awn.”


And yes, they have a street named simply, “Boulevard.”


The falling of one raindrop causes all drivers to immediately forget all traffic rules. If a single snowflake falls, the city is paralyzed for three days and it’s on all the channels as a news flash every 15 minutes for a week. Overnight, all grocery stores will be sold out of milk, bread, bottled water, toilet paper, and beer.


I-285, the loop that encircles Atlanta which has a posted speed limit of 55 mph but you have to maintain 80 mph just to keep from getting run over and is known to truckers as “The Watermelon 500.”


Don’t believe the directional markers on highways: I-285 is marked “East” and “West” but you may be going North or South. The locals identify the direction by referring to the “Inner Loop” and the “Outer Loop .”
If you travel on Hwy 92 North, you will actually be going southeast.


Never buy a ladder or mattress in Atlanta . Just go to one of the interstates and you will soon find one in the middle of the road.


Possums sleep in the middle of the road with their feet in the air.


There are 5,000 types of snakes and 4,998 live in Georgia .


There are 10,000 types of spiders. All 10,000 live in Georgia , plus a couple no one has seen before.


If it grows, it sticks. If it crawls, it bites.


If you notice a vine trying to wrap itself around your leg, you have about 20 seconds to escape, before you are completely captured and covered with Kudzu.


It’s not a shopping cart, it’s a buggy.


“Fixinto” is one word (I’m fixinto go to the store) – also can be pronounced “Fixinta”.


Sweet Tea is appropriate for all meals and you start drinking it when you’re 2 years old.


“Jeet?” is actually a phrase meaning “Did you eat?”


“How’s Momma-nem” means: “How’s Mother and all of the other children and other members of the family doing?”


Words That Go Unsaid

Is there anyone you owe an apology to? Have you been neglectful in saying thank you to someone? Have you let some one know how much you appreciate them? I think it would be safe to say that almost all of us have failed to give an apology, forgotten to say thank you, and not told somebody how much we appreciated them. It happens with our families, coworkers, friends, and people we don’t know but interact with on a daily basis.

 

It often hurts and/or disappoints us when others fail to express their appreciation for a sacrifice we have made or service we have given. Guess what? We often hurt and/or disappoint others for the same reasons.

 

Most of us are very good at expressing our disapproval verbally and physically, but for some reason we often fail to share words of encouragement and appreciation. We have plenty of excuses for why we didn’t – there was not enough time, we forgot, we just did know what to say.

 

I have learned a couple if things about giving an apology, saying thank you, and expressing appreciation:

1.  It only takes 30 seconds.

2.  As long as you mean what you say, it does not matter how pretty it sounds.

 

Some examples:

Thank you. I know this was a sacrifice of your time, your emotion, and your finances.

I appreciate you. You have really gone out of your way to support me.

I apologize. Sometimes I get too busy and caught up in my own stuff that I am inconsiderate of others. I’m sorry.

 

Life is short. We have a very limited amount of time to say the important things. The words we let go unsaid, are often the ones that hurt is the most.

Thankful Five

Once a week I try to write down five things  I am thankful for, and post them here. Lately, I have not been as good about this as I should be. Because of all the things that have happened here lately, I guess I have not been paying attention to  the things I am grateful for.

 

  1. I am thankful for feeling better emotionally.
  2. I am thankful for the grocery shopping we did last night.
  3. I am thankful for friends that make me laugh.
  4. I am thankful for learning how to set up boundaries.
  5. I am thankful for being here with mom. It is nice to know that if she needs me I am very close by. It is also nice to know that if I need her she is close by.

What Do You Leave?

 

The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good. ~ Samuel Johnson

 

Life is not fair, and people do and say things that hurt our feelings. Right or wrong, fair or unfair, kind or mean this is just the way the world is.  I believe how we react to these things has a huge impact on our outlook on life.

 

I have to admit, it has been a struggle for most of my life to move past hurt feelings, and a sense of having received the short end of the stick in life. I spent days, weeks, months, and years dwelling about the many wrongs that happened to me. In my mind, my imagination created elaborate scenarios of revenge. I ranted and raved about the unfairness of life, and how other people had it better than I did. I wanted what they had, not because I had done anything to earn it, but just because I wanted it. I was so angry, and bitter all the time.

 

I think I was a very self absorbed person. I spent a lot of a time concentrating on my wants, my needs, and my feelings. I did have the rare moment when I thought of someone other than myself, but unfortunately it did not happen often. I was not mean -most of the time -I was just very inconsiderate of others. In some ways, this basic selfishness I felt became worse when I started experiencing severe depression symptoms. I say this because all I could think about was me. Depression treatment has been very effective at teaching me better social skills, including how to be considerate of others.

 

From my own experiences,  I have come to believe many people are afflicted with attitudes of selfishness, and self absorption. From what I can tell, those people are usually bitter, angry, and often lack control over the things they say and do. At least I know I was. They are not bad people -myself included – but when you are concentrating that much on yourself, if it is very difficult to understand the impact you have on others -from family members, to total strangers.

 

It is unfortunate – there are days where wish I could do things differently – that the worst of my self absorbed and selfish behavior took place during the time I was raising children. They have memories of a mother who did not pay as much attention to their needs and wants as I should have. Not to mention, the way they are acting now is the very same behavior I modeled for them. However, that is not who I am now.

 

I have learned that everyday I make a mark on someone’s life. It is either a positive or negative mark -nothing is neutral. In my opinion, it does not matter whether I know someone in real life, or only on the Internet, I still have the ability to make a mark on his or her life.

 

When I am interacting with others, I try to keep a few things in mind:

Did I inspire or motivate?

Did I leave someone more confident than when I found him or her?

Did I extend generosity or kindness or mercy?

Did I make someone laugh?

Did I leave someone with hope?

I know that every time I interact with someone I am leaving something behind. My hope is to leave something positive behind. What do you leave?

 

I recorded some thoughts I had – while writing this post. I hope you take the time to listen.

My Thoughts While Writing This Post

Power Of Positive Words – U

I am now on my third set of positive words – going in alphabetical order. I get just as much out of them now as I did when I began this series.

 

Before I began depression treatment the words I used out loud, and in my mind were peppered with negativity. At that time, I did not realize the power that words can have on a person’s mood, attitude, and outlook on life. Depression treatment has taught me to be mindful of the words I use. Creating this list of positive words for each letter of the alphabet has been a terrific way for me to build up a positive word bank. My life is very different now. I see a future laid out before me that will be filled with much joy. I know there will be sorrows, however, I think the joy will outweigh those.

 

Feel free to use anything you see on this list on your blog – or even create your own list of positive words.

 

Upbeat – This word makes me feel positively happy because being upbeat is all about maintaining a positive attitude. I know that if I can remain upbeat -stay positive – then the curveballs that life throws me will not be so difficult for me to manage.

Power Of Positive Words – T

I am now on my third set of positive words – going in alphabetical order. I get just as much out of them now as I did when I began this series.

 

Before I began depression treatment the words I used out loud, and in my mind were peppered with negativity. At that time, I did not realize the power that words can have on a person’s mood, attitude, and outlook on life. Depression treatment has taught me to be mindful of the words I use. Creating this list of positive words for each letter of the alphabet has been a terrific way for me to build up a positive word bank. My life is very different now. I see a future laid out before me that will be filled with much joy. I know there will be sorrows, however, I think the joy will outweigh those.

 

Feel free to use anything you see on this list on your blog – or even create your own list of positive words.

 

Try -This word makes me feel positively happy, because to try means I am not giving up.  I have given up before, and it is a sad and lonely place to be. I realize now I do not have to feel that way, and for me the simplest answer is to try.

Dad's Sprouts

The other night – when I was thinking about all the wonderful things  people had said about dad during his visitation, and  memorial service – it occurred to me that I have been so busy grieving, worrying, and being angry since he died, that there was something very important I had not given any thought to. I realized I had forgotten about the SPROUTS. I am not referring to bean sprouts or Brussels sprouts, I am talking about all the little sprouts dad left ALL OVER the world.

 

It appears that my dad was one of those kinds of bosses that had extremely high expectations for the people that worked for him,  and liked to push people outside of their comfort zones. He would put people in situations where they could learn that they were more capable at accomplishing something than they thought they were. He also showed a willingness to take chances on people – especially young people – that others would have passed by. Although there were times at work that dad could appear to be an angry bear, many people were more afraid of disappointing him than facing his anger. I also learned that dad’s kind, caring, and generous ways extended to more than just his family. I heard several people refer to him as their mentor, grandfather like, and a father figure. These are things that people will remember, and use when they are in a similar position.

 

One of the young people that dad took a chance on – dad hired him immediately after he got out of the navy, and knew him from the time he was a little boy – was just beside himself with grief. During the visitation, he shared a couple things with my family. One was that my dad was the person who taught him how to throw a baseball properly. The other was, dad taking a chance on him was the reason he was able to live the lifestyle he currently had. In my heart, I believe that this young man will always remember the impact dad had on his life, and when the opportunity presents itself to be a strong, positive influence on a young person’s life, he will SEIZE it.

 

Because of what my dad did for a living – for most of my life it was dealing with nuclear energy in some form or another – he had the unique opportunity to travel to many places in the world. One of those places was China – where he lived for 5 1/2 years. It was there that he implemented training procedures for nuclear power plants that the Chinese still use today. Personally, I think his biggest legacy there was teaching several of the Chinese men – who worked for him – how to make American style hamburgers.

 

Quite a few of the people that dad worked with took the time to write down some thoughts and memories they had about him.

One lady wrote:

I owe George so much -from my first month here George always threw me where there was trouble. Things I didn’t think I could handle -he threw me at and when I struggled the most he just stood there and smiled and said nothing. Then he would ask me after it was all over – “What did you learn?” he had a plan the whole time and I was and am grateful to have been in it. Quality – Quality- Quality – that was George in every way. We will all miss him terribly.

 

Part of what another person shared:

George was such a wonderful leader and mentor to so many of us. I recall several instances when you would see him become very passionate. The first one was when he talked about sports or in his case the” University of Kentucky”. The second was when he had the opportunity to mentor/develop individuals like myself that were new to the nuclear industry… My life is so much richer for having known him…

 

I love how part of this letter refers to dad’s sprouts:

…I also admire George’s outlook on the nuclear way of life. While he set high expectations for everyday performance, George also realized that nuclear would die without the infusion of new blood needed to transition the old dogs of the program to the youth of the program. Not only did George demonstrate this on a frequent basis, George promoted the staffing by young men and women who had not one technical degree of nuclear knowledge. Yes because of George’s attitude, the George seeds have been planted and our department consists of a  fair number of people learning the values demonstrated by George. It is almost like George has 30 or so little nuclear Georges developing into the dedicated, professional, and principled leader he was.

 

He even had an impact on his family. One of his Cousins wrote this about him:

Doc – his family called him Doc – was always a hero to me. Yes, he had a hard life growing up, but look what he became… He will be so missed, yet his life should be celebrated…

 

I consider these, and the other memories shared with us gifts. They allowed me to get to know dad in a way I never had before. I am filled with joy at the thought that the sprouts he left behind will grow into the strong person he was.