How Could Things Go So Wrong?

Yesterday started off very busy. A young man came over, and did some heaving lifting chores that mom and I needed help with. He brought his three year old daughter with him. The little girl was fun to be around, but she is a very curious, and active little thing. I spent a great deal of the day asking her to put breakables back where she got the, and telling her the elderly dog did not want to play. I was left alone with her for about an hour or so while her daddy ran a pick up load of trash to the local dump – while he was out, he picked up his wife from work.

By the time the young man and his family left, I was frazzled. Keeping the 3 year from breaking any of my mother’s knick knacks, keeping her from taking everything out of the refrigerator, and keeping her from bugging the old dog were full time activities. During all of this, I did my best to keep up with the dogs. I left mine in the kennel for most of the day, leaving me only two to keep up with.  I knew where the oldest dog was most of the day. She was usually under my feet, in a dog bed, or outside. I even brought her in from the outside more than once.

As hard as I tried to keep up with the old dog, I failed miserably. Most likely after everyone had left, I lost track of her. I was too busy trying to collect myself to pay attention. The dog wandered out into the back yard, and I did not realize it. It was not until after Mom got home that I realized she was missing. I looked for her, thinking she was wandering around the backyard like she does. She was in the backyard, unfortunately she had passed away. I know if I had not been so busy paying attention to myself, I would have realized sooner she had wandered outside, and been able to bring her in before that happened.

Mom is horribly upset, her dog had been with her for 17 years. The timing sucks – happening so soon after dad died. I believe all of this could have been avoided if I had been paying more attention.

I am not sure where to go from here.

About My Father – George Shell

The following is what I am going to share during dad’s – George Shell – memorial service this afternoon.

I have really enjoyed all the stories, and little tidbits people have shared about my dad. I have loved learning how much he meant to the people he worked with. It has helped make a difficult time easier. Dad talked more about the people he worked with here than I ever remember him doing before. He was extremely proud of all the young men, and women he took under his wing, and bragged on them often.

I think everyone who knew dad would agree that he was one of a kind. He lived life on his terms, and was not afraid to bring the rest of us along for the ride. It has been an awesome ride.

My dad was not only a good man, he was also a good father. There was never any question in my mind about how much he loved me. The childhood he gave me was just as unique as he was. It was a childhood filled with walking up castle steps, being chased by bulls, visits to Disney World, eating Baked Alaska one night, and eating vienna sausage out of the can the next day.

It was a childhood filled with unexpected adventures, leaving me with lots of great memories. I will always remember the camping trip we took one summer – when we were living in Spain. We made it all the way to Germany – in the tent dad had borrowed – before things went slightly awry. It seems the tent had a large leak in it, and more than a little bit of the rain pouring down that night leaked inside. I woke up and discovered my air mattress was floating in water, and my parents had spent the night in the car. Dad always said two things about that trip, one was we would never forget it, and two it was the first – and only time – he ever convinced mom to go camping.

As organized as my dad seemed to be in his work life, the opposite was true in his home life – especially when it came to planning family trips. This was especially evident during that same summer we went camping. We were driving back to our home in Spain – after having gotten my cousin on a plane in Switzerland. The plan was for us to stay in a hotel along the French Riviera. Dad did not make the hotel reservation, he figured there would be no problem finding a hotel during the busiest time of year for that part of Europe. Always true to his word, we did end up sleeping along the French Riviera – in the car.

Even during the week before dad passed away he left me with some great memories. Dad was not really thrilled about the new diet plan he was going to have to follow. So mom and I work very hard to give him meals that were full of flavor. One night I was preparing some dessert, fruit with plain greek yogurt on top. If you have never had plain greek yogurt, let me tell you that it is extremely tart, and does look like whipped cream. Knowing that is probably what dad would think it was, I made the decision to not tell him anything different. So when it came time to eat our dessert, dad dove right in. I will always remember the look on his face. It was one of total shock and surprise. Dad being the kind of man he was, planned on eating the rest of the dessert to keep from hurting my feelings. However he looked very relieved when I told him he did not have to finish it.

Even as an adult, I felt safe, and protected when I was around him. He always was my soft place to fall. and one of my biggest sources of moral support. Dad was extremely proud of how far I have come in learning how to manage my depression. He told me more than once that I was happier than he had seen me in 20 years.

A week before he died, dad shared with me that he loved the life he had lived. He got to travel more than most people, and he had experiences that most of us only dream about. He was a man who had no need for a bucket list, because he had actually done everything he wanted to do.

Memories Of My Dad – George Shell

I wanted to share a slide show we created for the viewing tonight. It is nothing fancy, but it does represent many years worth of memories of my father – George Shell.

My father often said he had seen more of the world than most people, and done more than many people. One of the things he was the proudest of was being Baptized in the Jordon River. There is a picture of that in this slide show.

 

Funeral Arrangements

The other night I realized that several people my father knew found out about his death from my blog. After learning that, I made the decision to put a copy of his obituary, and funeral arrangements/information here as well. I felt it would be a good way for people who are interested to keep up with the details.

We will have a viewing Wednesday night from 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm at Thomas Poteet & Son Funeral Directors – 214 Davis Road, Augusta GA 30907 (706) 364-8484.

The memorial service will be on Thursday at 4:00 pm in the chapel at the funeral home. Reverend Larry Harmon will be officiating. I will take a few minutes to share some of my favorite memories of dad.

The funeral home has a web page with a guest book for dad. If you click on this link Obituaries it will take you to the obituary page. Dad is listed there – George Shell. Clicking on his name will take you to his obituary, and at the bottom of the page you will see a link named Sign Registry. You are invited to click on it and leave a message for mom, me, and/or my brother.You can share a favorite memory about dad, or offer your condolences . You are also more than welcome to share your thoughts, prayers, and condolences in the comment section below.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to West Acres Baptist Church Property Fund, 555 Gibbs Road, Evens, GA 30809, or Heart Cry Missionary Society, PO Box 2309, Christiansburg, VA 25068

So Much Waiting

I feel like I should be doing something. I want to be doing something. Anything. My heart hurts less when I am busy, but at the same time my brain is too busy, and agitated to concentrate. Then there is this waiting. Waiting.

The coroner had to come to the house since dad died at home. She said he would be taken to the county morgue, and we could have a funeral home pick him up – once we decided on one. My mother’s Pastor recommended one, and that is the one my brother called. They had to get permission from the county morgue to pick up dad, and a time to do so. A little bit ago, the funeral home called. They are picking dad up at around 5:30 pm, and we are to meet with them in the morning – around 11:30 am.

So now I am waiting. Waiting until bed time – when I can hide myself away. Waiting until I will be staring at the ceiling, waiting for sleep to come, waiting for my brain to STOP, and knowing there will be no sleep, and my brain WON’T stop.

My Dad Died Today

Today is a very hard day for me. My dad died. It happened sometime during the night – while he was sleeping. It appears he was not even aware that it was happening. He went to sleep, and did not wake up.

In a way it was completely and totally a surprise. Even though he had been in the hospital a couple of weeks ago for some heart issues, he was doing really well. He even had a doctor’s appointment on Tuesday during which the doctor expressed how pleased he was with how well my dad was doing. There was really no reason to think he would die after only being out of the hospital for a week.

My brain is having a difficult time coming to grips with the fact that my dad is dead. My heart aches. I am going to miss him so much. I am so blessed that I had the opportunity to rebuild our relationship before this happened.

My dad was not perfect, but he is my hero. It never mattered to him the state of our relationship, he was always there for me. He was quick to put aside the many times I caused him pain, and these last few months with him were wonderful. I have many good memories of him that I will always cherish.