The Queens Tuesday Meme – March 10, 2010

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The Never Should Meme
Brought to you from the sunny beaches of Somewhere whilst on vacation.

I actually believe that if “shoulds” and “nevers” were banned from the English language we’d all be better off. Who needs to live in absolutes? Should evokes unnecessary and unhealthy guilt.
Never is never enough no matter what you should be doing. Not ever! See? But in this fill-in-the-blank exercise you can be as dogmatic and brutal as you dare.
After today’s meme, lose the words.
Seriously.
You should.
Oh, never mind.

1. If I never see _hospital turnip greens_again it will be too soon.

2. Should I meet my Maker tomorrow, I would ask for one more day on earth to write letters to those i I love.

3. Never in my life have I __watched the rain__like I did today.

4. I should always allow more time to __talk to my daughter_.

5. I should’ve never listened to _Mr. Rogers__ while under the influence of _cold medicine.

6. I never _breakdown _in my car but I should always carry __flashlight_with me just in case.

7. I should spend more money on _my computer__ because it makes me happy. I should spend less money on _bills_because it makes me sad.

8. _Secrets__ should never be shared with strangers.

9. I should tell _a certain person_that I never really meant to _hurt their feeligns.

10. Never in a million years would I want you to know __I am not saying.

Random Dozen – March 10, 2010

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Definition of plink: “Plinking refers to informal target shooting done at non-traditional targets such as tin cans, glass bottles, and balloons filled with water.” Plinko is also a carnival game we play at Oneighty, but pot-luck shots fits this meme better, I think.

So here are your random plinko questions lined up in a row just like tin cans:

1. How old is the oldest pair of shoes in your closet?

I would say about 15 or 16 years

2. Did you buy Girl Scout cookies this year? If so, what variety?

No I did not buy any this year

3. Do you know how to ballroom dance? If not, would you like to?

No Ido not know a ballroom dance, but I would like to learn one at least, It looked like it was fun.

4. Were you a responsible child/teenager?

not really

5. How many of this year’s Oscar-nominated movies did you see?

I am not sure. I usually wait until movies come out on DVD and I never pay attention to what awards are won by either the movie or actors.

6. If you’re going to have a medical procedure done, such as having blood drawn, is it easier for you to watch someone else having the procedure done or have it done yourself?

watch. I am a very bad stick when it comes to blood being drawn and IV’s.

7. What is your favorite day of the week and why?

I think I like Wednesday the best. It sort of represents a half way point.

8. Do you miss anyone right now?

yes

9. Do hospitals make you queasy?

nope

10. At which store would you like to max-out your credit card. Not that you ever would, you responsible person, you.

any clothing store would do

11. Are you true to the brand names of products/items?

Most of the time no.

12. Which is more difficult: looking into someone’s eyes when you are telling someone how you feel, or looking into someone’s eyes when he/she is telling you how he/she feels?

looking into their eyes when they are telling me how they feel.

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Managing Not Dealing

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Something was pointed out to me today. When I heard this I did a mental double take. Then I realized the truth in the statement.

Managing our issues is so much better than just dealing with them.

Dealing with them implies that in some way an issue has defeated us or is in control. Managing implies that we are not letting an issue be in control. One word discounts our efforts in resolving an issue, the other acknowledges our efforts and allows for us to keep trying.

I think this is a very important statement for anyone. Mental illness or not, we all have issues. We all want some sort of resolution to our issues. Often when no resolution is obtained, we become frustrated. We develop a defeatist attitude and often just decide to “deal” with it. Dealing with it, in my opinion, means that we have come to accept the issue, and its control over us, without putting anymore effort into resolving it. When we have reached a sort of acceptance of an issue and its control of us, and decide to just “deal” with it, we often view ourselves and our efforts in resolution as failures.

I think managing an issue allows us to see it from a more positive perspective. Even in our lack of resolution, managing our issues keeps them from controlling us. We do not see a lack of resolution as failure. We see it as an opportunity to try again. We can look at our previous efforts and acknowledge that even efforts that did not bring about resolution are valuable. Every effort to bring about resolution will effect some sort of change.

I am sure that some people could argue that this is just a question of semantics. Manage and deal have similar definitions. However similar is not the same. When I looked at the definitions for both of the words, manage had more success oriented words than deal had. The definition for manage had words like direct, control, and to succeed. The definition for deal had words like to take action, and to behave in a certain way.

Do you think that changing just one word, deal to manage, really makes a difference in our efforts to resolve issues and maintain a positive attitude? Or do you think that both words are similar enough that it does not make a difference?

Are there instances you can think of where changing just one word in how you thought or spoke about something changed your whole perspective in how you viewed the issue or situation?

Food for thought, Neighbors!

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The Simple Woman's Daybook- March 9, 2010

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FOR TODAY March 9 2010

Outside my window… It is dark, very dark. The sun has not come up yet.

I am thinking…how nice it has been the last few evenings with my husband and daughter

I am thankful for…so many things. However, for right this second I am thankful for my mother.

From the kitchen…it is dark. No one else is up.

I am wearing…very warm pajamas

I am creating…I just finished creating my new website

I am going… to my psychiatrist today, medicine check

I am reading…inspiration quotes

I am hoping…to learn something new

I am hearing…snores coming from the bedrooms

Around the house…it is quiet an dark

One of my favorite things…is this time of the morning. It is all time for myself

A few plans for the rest of the week: I am a boring person, I rarely have plans to do anything, unless it involves a doctor or my counselor. I do plan on learning something new.

Here is picture for thought I am sharing…(add your picture here)
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Maui Babe After Browning Lotion

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Join Us for Monday Mayhem

Monday Mayhem – #19 ~ We’re Gonna Holo-Holo

Welcome to Monday Mayhem the home of Mayhem on a Monday. Every week is something different. Have fun! Today’s meme – We’re Gonna Holo-Holo Simply copy and paste this into a post on your site and answer the prompts. Be sure to list your a direct link to your post and visit the other participants. You are going shopping in Hawai’i. Your task is to visit each store and answer the questions. Make sure you take a lot of money with you. Puka shells aren’t accepted. Aloha!

1. Harriet at Harriet and Friends is in desperate need of some personal hygiene products. You spot an ABC Store. What three items do you purchase for her?

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Everything you need while tanning, or just having fun in the sun!

Includes:
1- Maui Babe Browning Lotion 8 oz
1- Maui Babe Sun Block SPF 30 8 oz
1- Maui Babe After Browning Lotion 8 oz (great moisturizer!)
1- Beach Monkey Black Velour Towel
1- Hibiscus Teal Long Sarong and
1- Beach Mat

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From the island of Maui…
MAUI RAIN Perfume 0.25 (quarter) ounce

The finest Hawaiian perfume. A beautiful blend of
subtle Musk, delicate Lily of the Valley, and a
variety of Tropical Flowers. Fine Porcelain bottle,
exquisite designs (which vary), with interior glass
lined sleeves.

2. After your purchase you receive a collect call from Susan at Stony River Farm. She apologizes for calling collect but she’s cheap and you know that so you gladly accept the call. She tells you that she’s writing a book and needs information on hula. You proceed to Native Books/ Na Mea Hawaii and buy her?

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3. Leaving the shop you remember that Melli at Insanity Prevails loves hats. You also remember her not liking her new do. Stopping to think for a minute you look around and spot Paradise Clothing Company and purchase what hat and dress for her?

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4. KCinnova at KCinnova’s World, your friend since small kid time, has been telling you that she’s feeling overworked and very busy. You decide that something organic will help her. Hailing a cab you tell the cabbie to take you to Malie Organic and purchase what for her?

Soy Candle

Availabe in Coconut Vanilla, Koke’e (Maile), Plumeria (8 oz), & Organic Mango Nectar
(11 oz)

5. Your phone rings yet again. This time it’s Barbara at Stray Thoughts. Her not being cheap calls direct. Isn’t that nice? Well she knows your on your Hawaiian vacation and would love some chocolates. So you decide to stop by Hilo Hattie and buy her what two types of chocolate?

Hilo Hattie Chocolate Covered Macadamia Nut Crunch

Hilo Hattie Chocolate Covered Macadamia Nuts

6. Checking your fanny pack, you see a note from Hazel at Delineating Des ~ or attempting to ~. She has requested a lei to match the stilettos that she always wears. They are hot pink. You get on your moped and go to Hula Supply Center and buy her what lei?

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7. Then you remember your dear sweet friend Juliana at Scabiosa Trenta is always complaining about the snow and cold weather. You decide to go to 88Tees Hawaii. So you grab your surfboard and off you go. Which three gifts do you buy her to brighten her day?

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8. Alas your phone again. This time it’s none other than Bud at WTIT: The Blog. He’s in a real jam and needs your help desperately. It seems the French Twins birthday is the day after you return home. He begs you in a very whiny voice to please help him out. You owe me Bud you say. You take a limo to Sensually Yours. What lingerie item do you buy to get him out of his jam?

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9. Finished with all your shopping you decide that you are hungry and in a mood to watch a beautiful Hawaiian sunset. You decide to stop by Duke’s. What do you order from the dinner menu?

POKE ROLLS 10.95
Hawaii’s favorite pupu! Raw Ahi, Maui onions, sautéed in rice paper

FRESH ISLAND FISH 25.95-29.95
Hawaiian traditions respect the sea (Kai) by only fishing
for specific fish during certain seasons. We honor these traditions.
The fresh Hawaiian fish we serve are available according to their season.
GRILLED ISLAND STYLE
Tropical pineapple salsa

KIMO’S ORIGINAL HULA PIE® 6.95
This is what the sailors swam to shore for in Lahaina!

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Whiners and Complainers

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My Friday Frustrations are late, at least I am getting them done now.

My frustration for this week is whiners and complainers, especially when they are whining and complaining about things they are receiving for low or no cost.

Last May I started having to use a free clinic when my husband lost his job. With all my health challenges I just could not afford to pay for a doctor out of pocket and I am blessed in that the county I live in has an awesome free clinic. One of the services they offer is acting as a go between for their clients and the big pharmaceutical companies. What they do is work very very hard so that the pharmaceutical companies will give you a years worth of free medicine for each one of your prescriptions. Out of all my medications, I get all but two for free.

The procedure to pick up your medication is the pharmaceutical company mails your medications to the free clinic, about three months at a time, and the clinic calls you and you go pick it up. Also, because there are doctors at the free clinic, the clinic does keep some prescription medications on hand so that the doctors can write the patient’s prescriptions,at no charge to the patient.

Any time I have to go to the pharmacy I expect it to take a while. They have to hand write out each an every one of the prescription labels on the medication bottles, there are a lot of patients, and everyone who works there is a volunteer.

After I got out of the hospital, I needed to go pick up a few prescriptions that had been waiting on me. My mother dropped me off and she left and did her thing. We knew it would take some time. As I was waiting in the pharmacy waiting room, the two ladies who were in there with me started talking. Or should I say, whining and complaining.

It seems instead of getting there right when the clinic/pharmacy opened because they had to go to work, they waited a bit and then were complaining because it was taking the pharmacy “too long” to get their medications ready. One of them even had the nerve to say that she did not think the doctors or the pharmacy staff really knew what they were doing.

I have to admit, I just wanted to get in their faces an shake my finger and tell them how ungrateful they were. I mean seriously, the volunteers (even the doctors are volunteers) work there every day to make sure people like us have good medical care. They work hard to get us free medications and to fill our prescriptions. They work hard to make us feel positive about ourselves, and seem to really care about the people who go there.

So these two ladies who did not plan heir schedules better were complaining because of the amount of time it took the pharmacy. It was not their first time there so the knew how long the wait could be. Instead of acknowledging the fact that they were responsible for not getting there early enough, they would rather complain about free services that they do not even have to use.

Ok rant/frustration over.

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Just A Reminder

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I will be moving everything over to the new site in just a few minutes. The new url is http://www.sugarfilledemotions.com

I will do my best to have it so that if you happen to click on the old site it will transfer you to the new one, however, just in case it does not work, please go ahead and update you bookmarks.

Those of you who are signed up on feeds will have to sign up again for the new feeds on the new site.

Please let me know if you have any quesitons.

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Why Die?

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Originally posted September 9, 2009

I have been asked, why is it that I thought suicide was a viable option for me.  There is no easy or quick answer for that question. From my perspective though, my choice of suicide was not a random or pointless decision. By the time I finally attempted suicide my thinking was so skewed, that unless a person has experienced similar thoughts, it is difficult to explain just how all consuming my suicidal thoughts were and why.

The last few months have been the lowest I have ever experienced.  Let’s face it, when a person gets to a point where they can see suicide as a logical, problem solving choice, it implies that, in their mind at least, they have reached a point where their life has very little meaning.   I felt abandoned, alone, unloved, afraid, sad, angry and unworthy.  I felt as if my back was against the wall and there was no other way out.  For months, it seemed as though every thought I had involved suicide.

I think I became obsessed with the thought of suicide.  If I encountered a difficult problem, my first thought was of suicide.  If my husband and I had an argument, my first thought was of suicide.  If I became sad about something going on in my life, my first thought was suicide.  I am sure you get the picture by now, I was applying the “solution” of suicide to every difficulty I faced.

To me suicide represented an end of consciousness.  An end to the horrible thoughts of feeling like I had been abandoned, that I was unloved, alone, afraid, sad, angry and unworthy.  An end to a deep, searing psychological pain, that just would not go away.  I had no hope and I believed that there was no one or nothing that could help me.  Suicide was the ultimate way that I could escape.

Fortunately, when it finally came time to enact my suicide plan, there was some small part of me, deep inside, that was not absolutely, convinced that suicide was the right choice.  That part, that little tiny voice, is the one that ended up calling for an ambulance.  Since that time I have learned that I am loved, that I am not alone, my sadness is not as deep, my anger is slowing going away, I am becoming less afraid and I am learning that I am worthy.  I no longer see suicide as my only choice.

Important Announcement!

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Sugar Filled Emotions now has its own domain. Yay!!! I am very excited! You can find the new site at http://www.sugarfilledemotions.com

Sometime this weekend I will be moving the whole blog to the new site. I will attempt to make this transition as smoothly as possible, however, if you want to, you can go ahead and update your bookmarks and etc. with the new url.

I thoroughly enjoyed having my blog at blogspot, but I am looking forward to having more versatility with my blog by this move. I appreciate everyone’s patience while I do this, and if you have any questions please let me know.

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Important Announcement!

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Sugar Filled Emotions now has its own domain. Yay!!! I am very excited! You can find the new site at http://www.sugarfilledemotions.com

Sometime this weekend I will be moving the whole blog to the new site. I will attempt to make this transition as smoothly as possible, however, if you want to, you can go ahead and update your bookmarks and etc. with the new url.

I thoroughly enjoyed having my blog at blogspot, but I am looking forward to having more versatility with my blog by this move. I appreciate everyone’s patience while I do this, and if you have any questions please let me know.

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