Last week, I asked my mother some questions that had to do with my suicide attempt and depression. Despite any pain answering these questions might have caused her, she took the time to answer them.  Two things jumped out to me when I read what she wrote, 1. my mother has a deep love for God (something I admire) and 2. my mother loves me bunches.

What were your initial thoughts and feelings when you learned that I had attempted suicide?

Sadness.  Confusion.  Knew you were not happy but had no idea the depression was so deep.  Sorrow that you felt so unworthy and unloved.  It grieves me that any human being would feel so alone.

It bothered me that you would be in such a fog that it wouldn’t register that the God who created you, who knows the number of hairs on your head, who has your name written on the palms of his hand, who knit you together in your mother’s womb would NEVER leave you nor forsake you.  He said so.

Did you have any idea that I was depressed before the suicide attempt?

No.  Our past history had left a a wide chasm between us and I really wasn’t close enough to you to know about your state of mind.  I did believe that you were a very unhappy person.

What did you think about my Psychiatric Hospitalization?

Hopeful that you were in a place where you could get some real help and not harm yourself.

Do you believe that you have ever had any depressive episodes?

Definitely.  As a young wife away from family and friends, and pregnancy made it worse.

What changes have you noticed in me since I began therapy and my mental health medication?

You seem happy and interested in other people.  You seem to be enjoying life and handling all the ups and downs it throws at you.  You seem confident and you are fun to be around.  You have a lot interesting things to say and yet you are a good listener.  It’s clear that family is important to you and you treat us with respect and honor and love.

In the last few years I have noticed many positive changes in you.  What propelled you to make those changes in yourself?

A firm belief in Jesus Christ as my Lord and Master, and my desire to please and emulate Him in spite of the fact that we are born into this world as wicked sinners.  He is my guidepost, my standard.  Although, I disappoint Him in many ways, I try to remember to honor and glorify Him in all I do and say…..To have someone recognize that there is a difference in my life makes me feel really good but best of all it is a testimony to the goodness of our God.

What do you think is my best quality?

I thought long and hard about this one – perseverance – some might call it stubbornness – something the women in our family have a full helping of – it does serve to help us overcome a great many difficulties.  I think you have “harnessed” that stubborn spirit in a positive manner and use it to your advantage.

Any thoughts you want to share that were not covered by my questions?

I have wanted to see you happy and enjoying life for a long time.  It makes me happy beyond words to see you participating in life and sharing with us the wonderful person that God made you to be.

I never want you to be afraid that we would not love you nor forgive you or that you ever have to go through a trial alone.