I am not comfortable in my own skin. The obvious reason is that I am over weight, however, even when I was much younger and skinnier, I was not comfortable in my own skin. I am not sure why that is. I look back at pictures of me and I see an attractive person, with a cute figure and an appearance of having a bubbly personality.
Maybe the reason I have never been happy with how I looked is that I was generally not happy. I kept a lot hidden from the people in my life even back then. Things like, how ugly I thought I was, how I did not think I was intelligent, and how inadequate I felt when I compared myself to other people. My negative internal dialogue was active even back then.
I would enjoy reaching a point in my life where I am comfortable in my own skin. I believe that being ok with myself has little to do with what size I am, but more to do with my own feelings of self worth. This is not to say that I do not need to lose weight, I realize that I do. It is more about being ok with myself and not basing my body image on other people’s opinions.
I believe becoming comfortable in my own skin, no matter my size, will come along, but that it is probably going to take some extra time. In the meantime, since I am finished with making excuses for not exercising, I will put some time and effort into that. As well as doing a few other things that make me feel good about myself.
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I have struggled with self image my entire life too. I do the same thing…I look back at pictures from years past and think wow, I'd kill to look like that again, yet at the time I was miserable and felt fat and ugly. I think the overwhelming negative self image and lack of confidence has to be connected to our mental health stuff!
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I apologize for taking so long to reply to your comment.
What you said about our negative self image and lack of confidence being connected to our mental health stuff, is absolutely true, as far as I am concerned. It has to be. That stuff has been part of every internal negative dialogue I have ever had. I remember as a teen I would go to extremes to get "attention" just so I felt attractive. To think of those very revealing and message sending clothes that I used to wear to school embarrasses me sometimes even now
I have struggled with self image my entire life too. I do the same thing…I look back at pictures from years past and think wow, I'd kill to look like that again, yet at the time I was miserable and felt fat and ugly. I think the overwhelming negative self image and lack of confidence has to be connected to our mental health stuff!
My recent post Dreaded Meds Update
I apologize for taking so long to reply to your comment.
What you said about our negative self image and lack of confidence being connected to our mental health stuff, is absolutely true, as far as I am concerned. It has to be. That stuff has been part of every internal negative dialogue I have ever had. I remember as a teen I would go to extremes to get "attention" just so I felt attractive. To think of those very revealing and message sending clothes that I used to wear to school embarrasses me sometimes even now
You are right, when you have built your self worth you will have a far better self image. But for the time being base your body image on this: you are beautiful. Inner beauty is the most powerful kind. You have a beautiful soul and it shines through every part of you, you ARE beautiful.
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Thank you Livi! You really have a knack for giving me the warm fuzzies.
You are right, when you have built your self worth you will have a far better self image. But for the time being base your body image on this: you are beautiful. Inner beauty is the most powerful kind. You have a beautiful soul and it shines through every part of you, you ARE beautiful.
My recent post A riddle wrapped in an enigma
Thank you Livi! You really have a knack for giving me the warm fuzzies.
Absolutely, positively: physical reflects mental, and mental reflects physical – it's the ratio that varies for each individual. It come out not only in our bodies, but the environments we create for ourselves and the relationships we choose to be in.
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Absolutely, positively: physical reflects mental, and mental reflects physical – it's the ratio that varies for each individual. It come out not only in our bodies, but the environments we create for ourselves and the relationships we choose to be in.
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Oh boy this is one of the HARDEST things to do. Be comfortable in your own skin. I try so hard too Melissa. Personally speaking, I need to listen to those who love me, and listen when they say I'm a good person, I'm beautiful, I'm pure…listen and BELIEVE. We put such damn impossible labels on ourselves. This is a quest of mine for years now, I used to be very overweight and lost over 50 lbs but I still see a fat girl in the mirror…I do. Learning to love the woman I am, the person I have become is a struggle that seems neverending. I think I'm getting better. You have to believe you're fabulous, you have friends and family who love and trust you…you have dedicated readers who come to see your words EVERY DAY…I'm with you- it's hard.
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Chere Michelle,
I do not often get all that outwardly emotionally anymore because of my meds, but there was something about what you said in your comment that made me tear up. I think it is because I can so totally relate to what you said in it. Thank you for taking the time to comment and share so much of yourself.
Maybe in my weekly thankful list that I do every Monday I should also list one thing about myself, my physical self, that I am thankful for. Maybe if I take the time to find those things I like about myself then I will gradually begin to be more comfortable in my own skin. What do you think?
Oh boy this is one of the HARDEST things to do. Be comfortable in your own skin. I try so hard too Melissa. Personally speaking, I need to listen to those who love me, and listen when they say I'm a good person, I'm beautiful, I'm pure…listen and BELIEVE. We put such damn impossible labels on ourselves. This is a quest of mine for years now, I used to be very overweight and lost over 50 lbs but I still see a fat girl in the mirror…I do. Learning to love the woman I am, the person I have become is a struggle that seems neverending. I think I'm getting better. You have to believe you're fabulous, you have friends and family who love and trust you…you have dedicated readers who come to see your words EVERY DAY…I'm with you- it's hard.
My recent post Lost in Thought
Chere Michelle,
I do not often get all that outwardly emotionally anymore because of my meds, but there was something about what you said in your comment that made me tear up. I think it is because I can so totally relate to what you said in it. Thank you for taking the time to comment and share so much of yourself.
Maybe in my weekly thankful list that I do every Monday I should also list one thing about myself, my physical self, that I am thankful for. Maybe if I take the time to find those things I like about myself then I will gradually begin to be more comfortable in my own skin. What do you think?
I hope you become comfortable in your own skin! I like this post, it's made me think!
Thanks susie! I am glad you liked it and it made you think!
I hope you become comfortable in your own skin! I like this post, it's made me think!
Thanks susie! I am glad you liked it and it made you think!