Do you have a friend or loved one who is living with depression? Have you ever struggled with what to say to them? Or what not to say to them?
Sometimes it is difficult to know what to say to a friend or loved one who is going through a depressive episode. You want to say something encouraging, but at the same time you do not want to accidentally hurt their feelings. You want to help them but you do not want to come off sounding condescending. The following list was created to help people learn some of the things that they should not say to a depressed person.
Some items on the list were suggested by other people, some were ones that I have heard, and others were found on the internet.
- I heard this one after trying to commit suicide- You are too smart to do something so stupid.
- suggested by @mindinflux – Pull yourself together.
- suggested by @mindinflux – Cheer up love, it might never happen.
- suggested by @monkeywithglasses – Cheer up, its not so bad.
- suggested by @monkeywithglasses – Life is great, look at the sky see the birds, and smiles. All said in a cheerful voice
- suggested by @witchyangl -If you had more faith in God you would not be depressed.
- It’s all in your mind.
- You have so much to be thankful for, why are you depressed?
- Happiness is a choice.
- You need to get out more.
- I know what you mean, I was depressed once for several days.
- Quit feeling sorry for yourself. Go out and help other people and you won’t have time to be depressed.
- I am tired of hearing you talk about it. Just get over it.
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any suggestions what is a good thing to say then ?
My recent post Good intentions didnt last
any suggestions what is a good thing to say then ?
My recent post Good intentions didnt last
Yes, I am working on them now. I am out of town and the connection I am using here is very slow.
Yes, I am working on them now. I am out of town and the connection I am using here is very slow.
What an amazing post!
Im going to repost it on my blog and credit you of course, cuz I want people in my life to realize all the wrong things they have been saying to me all this time.
thank u so very much.
What an amazing post!
Im going to repost it on my blog and credit you of course, cuz I want people in my life to realize all the wrong things they have been saying to me all this time.
thank u so very much.
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I have had all of those said to me at some point! You should write a manual!
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that is a good idea, I am going to think about it.
I have had all of those said to me at some point! You should write a manual!
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that is a good idea, I am going to think about it.
Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing. Even silence has something to say but through acknowledging another without saying much is understanding. You should do a part 2 to this. It already has a nice flow. 🙂
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Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing. Even silence has something to say but through acknowledging another without saying much is understanding. You should do a part 2 to this. It already has a nice flow. 🙂
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Thank you for the suggestion. I might do that. I was thinking about setting it as a page that was always accessible to everyone. Sort of like reference material.
Thank you for the suggestion. I might do that. I was thinking about setting it as a page that was always accessible to everyone. Sort of like reference material.
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Action speaks louder than words. So being there and giving them the comfort that they need might be would be ok. as long as they feel that your there.
awesome!