So stop worrying about what other people think and say to you if you know what you are doing is right and truly believe in what you are doing and do your best.
I whole-heartedly agree with that quote, which came from Selurus’ blog post, Believe In Yourself. However, I think for some of us having a belief in ourselves, that we can accomplish even the most difficult of tasks we set for ourselves, is a very difficult thing to obtain. I believe it falls right in line with having self worth. If we have no self worth, how can we believe in ourselves? When we have no self worth, it also makes us more vulnerable to the negativity of others.
I believe, especially when we are in recovery for a mental health issue, that before we can truly believe in ourselves, we must set about obtaining self worth. Loving and valuing ourselves is important. As important as those things are, very often we do not value and love ourselves as much as we ought, if at all. I have found a few things helpful in gaining my own self worth:
- I replaced my internal negative dialogue with a positive one
- I put boundaries up with the people in my life, asking demanding that they do not act and speak in a negative way to me or around me.
- I found something that was my own, my writing, that I could be proud of.
- I made sure I had a positive and encouraging support network, on and offline.
- I no longer allowed silly drama to invade my life.
There are more, but I believe those are the main things that helped me gain self worth. Once I gained some self worth, believing in myself came naturally. Since I had a good foundation for believing in myself (self worth), I became less vulnerable to other people’s negative thoughts and comments about me and whatever I was trying to accomplish.
Value yourself, you are a wonderful and beautiful person. Hold fast and strong to the belief that you can accomplish the things you wan to.
"I replaced my internal negative dialogue with a positive one" Man, that is so hard to do. At least for me, that's a battle I have to fight every day or more like every hour.
Such a good idea to be conscious of thoughts and emotions all the time. The negative always finds a way back in whether consciously or subconsciously.
Great post!
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It was not easy, what I had to do was basically retrain my thinking. For every situation, especially ones that I perceived as negative, I would make myself try and find at least three positive things. At first, I was lucky if I could find one, but as time went on and my brain became more used to finding the positive, the easier it became. Now it is so ingrained into my mind, that I look for the positive automatically. It has taken over year, but it has been worth the work.
I try to always be aware of my thoughts and emotions.That is where I will discover if I am having any problems first.
Thanks!
"I replaced my internal negative dialogue with a positive one" Man, that is so hard to do. At least for me, that's a battle I have to fight every day or more like every hour.
Such a good idea to be conscious of thoughts and emotions all the time. The negative always finds a way back in whether consciously or subconsciously.
Great post!
My recent post Potent Quotables – Mel Brooks Edition
It was not easy, what I had to do was basically retrain my thinking. For every situation, especially ones that I perceived as negative, I would make myself try and find at least three positive things. At first, I was lucky if I could find one, but as time went on and my brain became more used to finding the positive, the easier it became. Now it is so ingrained into my mind, that I look for the positive automatically. It has taken over year, but it has been worth the work.
I try to always be aware of my thoughts and emotions.That is where I will discover if I am having any problems first.
Thanks!
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You've got to develop your self worth and self esteem and put your foot down when you really know that what you're doing is right and don't let what others think or say bother you.
You’ve got to develop your self worth and self esteem and put your foot down when you really know that what you’re doing is right and don’t let what others think or say bother you.
I am learning to set boundaries and see that I can be confident in my decisions and not second-guess everythingI do or think!
I am learning to set boundaries and see that I can be confident in my decisions and not second-guess everythingI do or think!